I tried to wake him up but it didn’t work. The boy is cute but we gotta pack! #sleepingbeauty #wakeup #packingday
The Secret of True Love Paul Newman & Joanne Woodward
They met in 1953, were cast together in “The Long Hot Summer” in 1957, married in 1958, and remained blissfully happy together for 50 years, celebrating their golden anniversary just months before Paul’s death in 2008.
Paul Newman’s letter to his wife on his wedding day:
“ Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon; it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding rooms for things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.”
list of cute things
- also you
- hey look you
- and you
- wait wait wait
- you’re cute
i wanna be choked and pounded into the mattress and spanked real hard and called a bad little girl then go out for milkshakes and burgers and hold hands and have my forehead kissed
Well friends, an adventure is upon us. In a little more than 48 hours our apartment in Richmond will be packed up and headed for Illinois. The following week, Charlie’s car will be shipped on Monday, we leave on Tuesday, and I start my new job on Friday.
Currently we are in NYC for Charlie’s tap audition (which he TOTALLY rocked!) and head back to RVA in the morning. We have one day to get our shit together. Impossible? No. Stressful? Very. AND we still haven’t found a fucking place to live.
So here I am typing away in Morningside Heights, fighting a sore throat (please be allergies), searching for a house, and sort of regretting not going out for margaritas with Charlie and our friends……bummer. To be completely honest, I almost bailed on this trip last minute because of all the shit that needed to get done but there was no way I was not going to be with the babe for this audition.
If there is one thing I’ve learned the past five and a half months its compromise. Shit, its not even that. I think its just mutual caring and unconditional love for another human being….one that reciprocates those feelings as well. The past two weeks we have talked so much about the future and how to figure out two careers as artists, especially ones that are going through HUGE job changes and taking advantage of incredible opportunities. But really, its easy. We both want the best for each other AND we want to be together. Impossible? Naw. Stressful? Very.
But today I’m just so proud and excited for my amazing partner. He is so fucking talented and humble and he makes everything worth it.